I was chatting with somebody the other day and we were discussing "life" they told me how they had asked people the question "How do they cope" - they just say "They just do". This has got me thinking about the answer - "You just do [cope]".
I thought to myself - how did I cope, how did I go through all that - I had no direct support - I lived away from all my family, I had nobody to call on. I guess I was in a stable job, pay was good - but still no where near what I needed to actually survive (and it still isn't) and I had the luxury of tax free living, no mortgage, and limited monthly costs. Luckily a promotion came along and that eased some of the worries.
Having thought about all those years ago - I realised how I coped - sacrifice - you sacrifice what you want, you change your plans, you change what you enjoy (Holidays, shopping, eating out), to ensure that you can cope. You give up the things you enjoy and look forward to the days when you can enjoy them again. For me I gave up my sports, nights out, shopping and the spontaneous purchases - i guess you give up your lifestyle - that's how you cope you change your whole lifestyle.
The other way though is not to just cope - it's to plan, it's to be ambitious, it's to put the effort in now, its to make those sacrifices now, just for a few years and do with out, so that when you do reach that point - you don't just cope, you're ready, you have what you need, not what you need to cope, but what you need to succeed.
I thought to myself - how did I cope, how did I go through all that - I had no direct support - I lived away from all my family, I had nobody to call on. I guess I was in a stable job, pay was good - but still no where near what I needed to actually survive (and it still isn't) and I had the luxury of tax free living, no mortgage, and limited monthly costs. Luckily a promotion came along and that eased some of the worries.
Having thought about all those years ago - I realised how I coped - sacrifice - you sacrifice what you want, you change your plans, you change what you enjoy (Holidays, shopping, eating out), to ensure that you can cope. You give up the things you enjoy and look forward to the days when you can enjoy them again. For me I gave up my sports, nights out, shopping and the spontaneous purchases - i guess you give up your lifestyle - that's how you cope you change your whole lifestyle.
The other way though is not to just cope - it's to plan, it's to be ambitious, it's to put the effort in now, its to make those sacrifices now, just for a few years and do with out, so that when you do reach that point - you don't just cope, you're ready, you have what you need, not what you need to cope, but what you need to succeed.
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